As a whole, we [society] are growing louder and louder. Because of this, taking the time to be still and just listen is getting pushed out. Listening expert Julian Treasure takes his expertise to TED where he walks us through 5 ways to listen better. As he says: “We are losing our listening”. We are, so what can we do to get it back?
I recommend you take the short 7 minutes (below) to watch Julian give us 5 ways to ‘retune’ our ears for mindful listening.
Julien Treasure’s TED Talk Takeaways:
Aim for 3 minutes a day of silence.
This is totally doable, wake up and just sit on the edge of your bed, take deep breaths and just listen to the silence around you (moms, this may mean waking up 10 minutes before the chaos begin!).
Try to listen to individual sounds. Julien calls this “the mixer”.
Stop what you are doing right now and listen. Where are you at and what do you hear? People talking? Music? TV? Now, see if you can tune into the smaller sounds. How many channels of sound can you hear? The next time you are out in nature, listen to the lake flowing, birds chirping, and leaves rustling. These are all sound channels.
Savor the mundane sounds.
Is your dishwasher on? Just listen to it…..breathe and listen. Mundane sounds can be interesting so give it a try.
Listen to other people talk. Pay attention to them. Ask questions.
The next time you are talking to someone, just listen to them. Don’t think about what you are going to say next. Just listen. If you find yourself getting distracted thinking about yourself then take deep breaths and focus on what the other person is saying. Just listen to them and make eye contact.
Teach listening as a tool.
Do you have kids? Have you noticed the noise they take in on a daily basis? How often are they in a quiet situation? Can you teach your kids to listen? Can you teach them the 3 minutes of a silence a day tip? Is this something you could all do together? You can even talk to your friends about this simple idea of listening.
Try these and come back and let us know how it changed your day; because it will!